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Hypnotherapy for Job Interviews

Hypnotherapy for Job Interviews

 

 

The word interview often sends shivers down our spines, as most people associate only negative emotions to job interviews. This association can spin out of control as you generally perform worst when your interview self esteem is low, which only helps to build on your negative interview association and I would add this negative experience will add more powerful negative feelings to your next interview, creating a negative loop of poor interview performance.

 

This fear can often turn into a phobia, just as a fear of a spider that scared a child can turn into a phobia as the child grows into an adult. But as with all phobias and fears this phobia can be destroyed, beaten and eliminated for ever.

 

There are several techniques that can be used to reduce your interview fear and destroy your phobia, the most powerful being Interview Hypnotherapy. These sessions are short, relaxing and empowering as with all hypnotherapy you are in control.

 

Employers only recruit confident, positive employees that have an abundance of self belief – basically you need to shine throughout the job interview to succeed

 

To learn more about hypnotherapy and to book your session, click this link:  Hypnotherapy in Manchester.

 

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How to be Confident in an Interview

How to be Confident in an Interview

 

Job interviews fall in to the top ten categories for situations that intimidate you, make you nervous and situations that knock the confidence out of you.  Why? Because we have to sell ourselves to the employer, for many this is a new and highly intimidating time. For your job interview to go well you have to make you the product stand out from the other interviewees, to do this you need to ooze confidence.

These 5 tips will help you boost your confidence before your next interview giving you the winning edge over other interviewees.

  • Buy new interview clothes, we all feel better and more confident when were wearing something new and smart. Once dressed stand in front of the mirror and look at and note everything that looks good about you

 

  • Before your real interview, attend a fake job interview for a job you don’t want, use this experience to improve your interview skills. Look back and write a list of everything that went well for you and record a second list of what you can do to improve your chance of a job offer

 

  • Make a list with three headings; Skills, Qualities and Experiences. Under each heading record as many skills, qualities and experiences you possess that are required by the new employer. These are your key selling points that you need to discuss throughout the job interview

 

  • Complete an interview visualisation; imagine attending the job interview and everything goes as planned, you know the answers to the questions, you build rapport with the interview, you feel relaxed, calm and incomplete control. Go one step further and imagine you have been offered the job, see yourself working in this new organization, the boss appreciates your work ethic, your new colleagues respond well to your professionalism – imagine this is the job you have always wanted. This technique is used by professional athletes before Olympic events.

 

  • Before you step through the interview door, take 10 deep breaths, as this will allow you to relax. Once calm imagine you are a confident person, stand how a confident you would stand, hold your head up high and push your chest out a little and walk in, as a confident you would walk – own the interview

 

These 5 easy to complete techniques can make a real difference with your interview success as interviewers only want to employee confident employees. If you’re still worried about being a bag of nerves at your next job interview, you can boost your confidence while reducing your negative self esteem in just one day by learning how to be as confident as a comedian.

 

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Can You Answer Interview Questions?

Can You Answer Interview Questions?

To win job offers, you can’t just rely on your experience and skills, the trick to winning offers of employment is by your ability to answer interview questions. Below you will find ten interview questions and an explanation of how to answer them. To ensure you pass your next job interview Employment King have gone to the employers and asked them what they require as a successful answer.

Tell me about yourself

For this question give a brief introduction about yourself, think of a good opening line, be really positive talk about previous positions and any significant achievements – ensure what you talk about is relevant to the job you are applying for.

What are your strengths?

This is one of the most common questions you will be asked. Give an answer relevant to the skills and qualities relevant to the position you are applying to. The interviewer is trying to find if your strengths match the job. For example, if you are applying for a job where accuracy is an important issue, one of your strengths could be that you have an eye for detail.  It may useful to find different words to describe similar attributes and qualities in order to avoid repetition.

If your interview skills are lacking, you will want to book a session with an Interview Coach

What are your weaknesses?

Again, another commonly asked question.  A frequent mistake to make when answering this question is to say something negative like “I can sometimes let things get on top of me”. Be positive and sell yourself with every interview question, turn a negative into a positive. For example, “In the past I felt I needed to improve my typing skills, because I wanted to be the best I can so I have recently enrolled on a typing course”. This will show that you can identify your weaknesses but at the same time, you are willing to improve. Most importantly: do not mention a weakness that is any way related to the job you are being interviewed for! This might sound obvious but it is a common mistake!

What do you enjoy doing outside of work?

This is sometimes asked as an opening question to get you talking and to calm your nerves, a lot of people answer “Socialising with friends” “Playing on my computer” “Taking my family on day trips”. Whilst these are valid and honest answers they do not really bring anything to the table that is special, that makes you stand out.

If you can say that you volunteer you will be guaranteed to impress! Although this should be truthful! You can apply to volunteer in any area you like, ideally in a position relevant to the job you are applying for. Volunteering is seen as a positive activity by all employers, you only need to volunteer once or twice a month and when you can answer this question  with “Currently I’m volunteering for Oxfam, I really get al lot out of helping others…” you can see that there are few who wouldn’t be impressed with that answer.

Why did you leave you last job?

A dreaded question for many! When answering this question never give a negative answer.  “I did not get on with my manager” or “The management did not run the business well” will show you in a negative light and reduce your chance of a job offer. Answer the question positively, emphasising that you have been looking for a career progression. Start by telling the interviewer what you gained from your last job “I enjoyed my last job, I quickly learned how to multi-task…”

If you were made redundant, let the interviewer know, this is not a negative.

Where do you see yourself in 4-5 years time?

Tell the interviewer how you want to progress through their company, a manager does not want to be re-advertising and interviewing in a year’s time, do not infer that you may want to leave after a certain amount of time. “I am really keen to learn how your company operates; I can see myself attending any available training and using this knowledge and my own drive and ambition to work my way up the company.” It may be useful to see if there are any formal progression tracks or training programmes.

Why do you want to work here?

An interviewer knows you are applying for other jobs, you may be offered a job with this employer, start employment and then leave for another job offer. An interviewer would never say this affects who they pick (and a large amount of companies using a scoring system to stop this from happening). But would you offer someone a job if you thought that they weren’t fully committed to your company? Show the interviewer how enthusiastic you are about the job, industry and their company. “Your company has such a good reputation and I know you have the ‘Investors in People’ award and this impresses me. I have been following your company for the last couple of years and I have seen how you have grown and I feel I would like to be a part of this.”

Have you got any questions for me?

Most interviewers ask this question and generally towards the end of the interview. Remember to prepare for this, as asking questions will be a great end to an excellent interview. Ask about company expansion, the team you will work with and anything to do with new contracts and personal development/training.

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NLP – Sleight of Mouth Patterns

NLP – Sleight of Mouth Patterns (SOMP)

People constantly live with limited self-beliefs, stopping them from moving forward with their lives, in the worst-case scenarios these limiting beliefs can turn into depression. SOMP help you reframe a person’s belief, the 14 SOMP patterns can be used in conversation to help give the client a new perspective without the client feel like they are in a coaching or canceling session. A SOMP doesn’t always resolve the problem but helps soften up the problem to make change easier. Some SOMP patterns can seem harsh or callous, which means you need to pick the right patterns for each client – you don’t need to use all 14 patterns on each client.

Limit the Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs define the relationship between a client’s value and their causes, indicators and consequences. Beliefs are typically expressed in the form of

Complex equivalence (A “equals”, “is, “is equivalent to” or “means” B)

Cause-effect (A “causes (because)”, “makes”, “leads to”, “produces”, “results in” B).

As an example, clients limiting belief maybe “I can’t lose weight because I don’t have willpower” (cause and effect)

Sleight of Mouth Pattern Examples

Redefine; change the representation of the belief  

  • What other meaning could the equation have?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: so what you are trying to say is that you don’t have the will power to lose weight but you can change your diet and eat healthier food

Consequence; consequences that can change beliefs

  • What will happen to them if they continue to think this way?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: the longer you leave it the less willpower you will have

Intention; what is the positive intention?

  • Why are they saying this?
  • What is the secondary gain?
  • What are they trying to get?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: it can be scary stopping a habit you have had for a while and we both agree it’s worth it to look great on your wedding day

Chunk Down; specific elements

  • What specifically?
  • What are examples of this?
  • What are parts of this?

Example SOMP Question or Statement:  what will give you the will power?

Chunk Up; generalisations

  • For what purpose?
  • What’s important about this?
  • Exaggerate.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: overweight people are always unhappy   

Counter Example; exceptions that challenge generalization

  • Invert the belief.
  • Make into a universal statement or question
  • A causes B, not B causes not A.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: we have all met people who say they can’t lose weight and then do

Another Outcome; propose a different outcome

  • What is another outcome you could shift to?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: the issue isn’t that willpower can win, it’s about you giving dieting a chance

Metaphor/Analogy; Use an analogy or metaphor that challenges the generalization defined by the belief

  • What story will relate to their belief?
  • Tell a metaphor or story about the solution.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: I adopted an overweight dog once that I believed would never lose weight, we started taking the dog on small walks and change his diet to a healthy diet, it was only a small thing really but before we do it the dog had lost loads of weight. The funny thing was we were told my the dog adoption shelter that the dog due to it’s bad health would only live for 12 months, but now 3 years later he is healthy and full of life.

Apply to Self; use key aspects of the belief to change the belief

  • Don’t think about it; just use the word back on itself.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: you can’t lose weight until you believe you have the willpower to lose weight

Hierarchy of Criteria (Values) Re-assess the belief based on a more important criterion.

  • What is a higher criteria (values)?
  • Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: isn’t it more important to think about your health than your weight

Change Frame Size; Re-evaluate the implication of the belief in the context of a longer (or shorter) time frame, a larger or shorter number of people (or from an individual point of view) or a bigger or smaller perspective.

  • Something (larger or smaller) they haven’t noticed.
  • Different frame, same behavior.
  • Chunk up to Universal Quantifier.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: losing weight will give you a longer life….to spend with your grandchildren

Meta Frame; change the basis of the belief

  • How is it possible they could believe that?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: you can’t lose weight but can’t you eat less food each day?

Model of the World; look at the belief from a different perspective

  • Switch Referential Index.
  • Is this true in everyone’s Model of the World?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: beating will power is telling yourself you do it

Reality Strategy; Re-assess the belief based on the fact that beliefs are based on specific perceptions

  • How do they represent that belief?
  • How do they/you know if it’s not true?
  • Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: how do you know willpower not laziness is stopping you from losing weight?

Ask we discussed one SOMP question or statement will not always change the persons belief, but what it will do is weaken the belief, allowing your client to have a change of focus, with this change we can work with the client to move them forward.

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5 Quick Tips to Boost Your Confidence Each Morning

5 Quick Tips to Boost Your Confidence Each Morning

 

Everyday people are waking up feeling down and depressed because they don’t have the Confidence to; speak up in meetings, to ask the person they fancy out on a date, to apply for that job they have always wanted and some people don’t have the confidence to try something new.

The question you need to ask yourself is “what would be different in my life if I felt more confident?”

 

By completing these 5 early morning confidence boosting exercise you can learn to feel more confident.

 

1. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself all the nice things you see, everyone has something good to say about their appearance – you may have a nice smile or beautiful eyes, today your make-up may make you look younger then you really are, you have brought a new necklaces that really suits you. It doesn’t matter what it is you like about yourself, what matters is that you realise there is something about you that you like.

 

2. Wear something nice, often people who don’t believe in themselves lose hope and don’t even make the effort in the way they look. Get rid of all your old, ugly and ill fitting clothes, go out and buy something new, put it on and admire how wonderful you look. When you look good you feel good.

 

3. Use positive self talk, each day write something down that is positive about your self or something positive you will do that day “I am a confident and beautiful person” or “I have the confidence to speak up in team meetings” repeat what you have wrote ten times out loud.

 

4. Visualise the day, positively. People with low self esteem often think about the coming day, visualising how negative it will be, how many mistakes they will make or what can go wrong and negative images make you feel negative. Move these pictures away and make a positive movie in your mind; imagine your day go as well as it possibly can, see yourself as a confident person and imagine only positive outcomes, as positive picture make you feel positive.

 

5. Ask yourself what you learnt yesterday and how can this help you today. People with low confidence will focus on their mistakes, but making a mistake is good as this is the best way to learn, the best way to move forward. Make a list of anything that went wrong the day before – you didn’t speak up when you should have done; you forgot to complete a certain task or didn’t give yourself enough time to make yourself look your best. Next think about what you could do different if the same situation was to come up again today, what could you do positively, how you can be more confident. You can then use this new learning to feel more confident about handling any situation.

 

By completing these 5 techniques on a daily basis you will start to feel more positive about yourself, which will lead you to acting more confidently in any situation – remember the key to learning is repetition.

 

If you need to boost your confidence levels quickly attend the new “The Funny Thing About Confidence” course – starting soon!

 

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How to be Confident

How to be Confident

 

People want to be more confident for all types of reasons; public speaking, playing sports, talking to strangers, job interviews and all areas of peoples lives. Confidence is easy to learn, as people with low confidence often don’t know how to change the daily patterns they unconsciously run in their mind which makes them feel low in confidence.

You can easily learn how to be more confident by practicing a couple of easy to learn techniques, one which I will teach you today:

Boosting Confidence

  1. Imagine you could see a confident version of you standing in front of you, look at how this confident you stands, breaths and acts. Notice your gestures, how the confident you talks and moves. Become aware of everything that makes this confident you confident.
  2. Now, imagine stepping into this confident you so you can see the world from the eyes of the confident you. See what you can see, hear what you can hear and feel the confidence flowing through your body.
  3. Notice in front of you their is an even more confident you standing their, looking more confident, full of self belief with eyes that have that extra twinkle as you emanate loads of charisma.
  4. Step into this more confident you and notice that in front of you is an even more confident you, more passionate, more confident, more powerful. See the world from these eyes and hear what you can hear and notice how confident you now feel.
  5. Keep stepping into even more confident you’s until you feel overwhelming confidence flowing through you and notice where this feeling is inside you, become aware of your breathing and how you hold yourself. Notice any positive self talk you are saying to yourself.

Complete this exercise everyday for 5 days and notice how each day you become more confident quicker then the day before.

If you want to be more confident you can learn to be as confident as a comedian in just one day!

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Ways to Change Your Life for the Better

How to make quick changes in your life….for the better

 

This article will highlight some common traits that negative people use to help them stay negative. If you comply with any of these common pitfalls you can make a change by following the links below

 

  • Stop Jumping negative people will always jump to conclusions in every situation, they often assume they know what is going to happen and often have no evidence to back this up. This often leads people to think that everyone is out to get them as they take everything someone says or does as a negative against them. People who jump to conclusions will often not live their life by trying new things as they conclude that they will not have a good time, again this thought is never backed up with evidence.
  • Mountains out of molehills negative people will often make mountains out of molehills; by taking small set backs as a big barrier to their goal. Compare this to positive people who take every set back as an opportunity to learn;Edison took 1000 attempts to invent the light bulb, if he gave up we would all be sat in darkness.
  • Making it personal do you believe that they are taking about you? When troubled by low self esteem many people will truly believe that friends and colleagues are talking about them and that this conversation is negative. In truth most people have better things to talk about, so don’t take every look, and conversation as an excuse to feel down – it’s not always about you and when it is how do you know its not a positive conversation?
  • Living in the past for many of us we have had a troubled past, this could be being bullied as a child at school or having to struggle through poverty. All your experiences have built the person you are, if you have had a troubled past you need to use this experience to motivate you to have a better future, remember the more you think about negative instances the more negative you will feel.

 

Time to make a change

 

If you struggle with low confidence, low self esteem or a lack of happiness you need to make some real changes. Life is about living and you need to live your life. If you live your life in the past remembering negative past events, or you make mountains out of molehills, taking everything personal or maybe you always jump to the wrong conclusions?

 

You can change the way you feel and the way you live your life in just 12 weeks! What to do next? Click: Online Coaching Course for Motivation and Confidence

 

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How to Fill In Job Application Forms

 How to Fill in Job Application Forms

More and more employers require you to complete a job application form rather then a CV, this reason for this is the employer can ask you questions on specific experiences or skills on the job application form whereas a CV is written from the employee’s perspective.

In many cases you may be asked to complete an application form even if you have originally applied by CV or telephone. This way, the employer has a record of your personal and employment history, verified and signed by you the applicant.

Completing the Application Form

Before you start ensure you have all the relevant details you require with you, it is important that you complete the application fully, follow the attached instructions and ensure the application form is error free.

Finally use the job specification as a guide to ensure the application highlights the require skills and experiences the employer states as essential.

Job Application Form Details – What Information You Will require

Personal Information:

  • Name
  • Address
  • Post Code
  • Phone Number
  • Mobile Number
  • NI Number
  • Conviction Details

Education:

  • High Schools/Colleges Attended including dates and addresses
  • Universities Attended including dates and addresses
  • A list of all your qualifications

Position Applied For Information:

  • Title of the position  you are applying for
  • Job Reference Number
  • Hours and Days available to work (for part time positions)
  • Date you can start work and a list of any pre-booked holidays

Employment Information:

  • Names, addresses, phone numbers of previous employers
  • Dates of employment
  • Salary
  • Reason for Leaving

References

  • List referees – names, job title or relationship, addresses, phone numbers and the amount of year you have know them.

Personal Statement

  • The profile or personal statement is the most important section of the Job application Form, this section is so important we have wrote a separate article which will teach how to write a winning personal statement.  

 

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Boosting Self Esteem

Boosting Self Esteem

 

Why do some of us feel confident and others lack self belief? How come others have it good, while for some everything we try doesn’t work out? What is the difference between someone who enjoys their life and those that feel like they have nothing to live for?

 

The key to boosting your self belief and to feel more confident is by changing your Limiting Beliefs. A limiting belief is a belief that stops you being your best in anything that you do, a limiting beliefs limits us and makes us feel emotionally negative.

 

If you want to change your low self esteem change your limiting beliefs, which means you need to ask yourself “what are my limiting beliefs?”

 

Common limiting beliefs include:

 

  • “Everyone is out to get me”
  • “Nothing ever works out for me”
  • “I fail at everything”
  • “I’m useless”
  • “I’m rubbish at driving/cooking/relationships/making friends/job interviews”
  • “I can never pass exams”
  • “I never win anything”

 

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As you can tell from the above list, limiting beliefs are general which means they need challenging. If you have low self esteem, you will tell yourself (and others) that “limiting belief” you will then find evidence to back this limiting belief up.

 

As an example, lets take “I never win anything” so you go to a raffle or bingo game and lose, in a negative tone you say “I never win anything” and this new evidence (not wining at bingo or not picking out a winning raffle ticket) adds strength to your limiting belief until you never try at any games because “I never win anything”

 

Collecting evidence happens all the time with all limiting beliefs and can be very dangerous when your limiting belief is “I always pick the wrong partner” or “My life is the worst, I don’t deserve to live” when we truly believe are limiting beliefs they often turn into self fulfilling prophecies…which adds more evidence to your limiting belief.  

 

Overcome Your Limiting Belief and Increase Your Self Belief.

 

Lets look at the “I never win anything” limiting belief, to change this belief you need to question your belief – “when was the last time I won something” Answer “2 ½ years ago when I won £5 on a scratch card” this starts to break down the belief, “so I sometimes win things..”

 

Question all your limiting beliefs and find evidence why the limiting belief is WRONG, continue to question one belief until you start to really doubt it.

 

To learn more about building confidence and reducing negative beliefs complete the 12 Week Online Coaching Course and see the difference in your life.

 

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Self Confidence

Self Confidence

I have always been fascinated with how people’s minds work – why are some people confident while others are nervous wrecks? Today I will teach you the secrets to boosting your confidence and explain how we are all motivated through Pain and Pleasure.

 

People with low self esteem and a lack of confidence view the world through a different set of eyes then confident people. When preparing to do any activity from asking a stranger on a date, applying for a new job, talking up in staff meetings or even wanting to get of your house to try something different, a confident person will look at the Pleasure of these activities and the Pain of not doing them.

 

The difference here is a person lacking self esteem will look at the Pain of these activities and the Pleasure of not doing them.

 

The Carrot or the Stick

 

To best understand motivational Pain and Pleasure is through an example. Imagine your sat in a team meeting at work and the boss is discussing a new way of working and through your own experience you know this idea has many potential pitfalls that the manger has not discussed or thought about, pitfalls that could cost the organisation money which long term could even lead to potential job cuts.

 

So, do you speak up or not? It all depends on how you view the situation – through Pain or Pleasure. Before we make most decisions we think about what we are going to do/say/act like, in our mind, often playing a movie of this potential future event.  

 

Generally if you have no confidence and low self esteem, your movie will be full of pain – you will see yourself speaking out in the meeting, you might picture yourself stumbling your words, or hear your boss shouting your ideas down or even picture your colleagues laughing at you. This Pain movie will not inspire you to speak, so you think what if I do nothing; in this movie you say nothing and nothing bad (painful) can happen to you – this is a form of pleasure.

 

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Confident people will think differently, they will visualise themselves talking out in the meeting, and the will see everyone in their movie being really interested in what they say, the boss being amazed by this deep understanding of the potential pitfalls and may even see the whole of the meeting delegates standing, clapping and cheering – pleasure.  The may think about not speaking out and view themselves feeling frustrated and angry about not feeling confident enough about speaking out to stop this potential mess and money/job loss – a form of Pain

 

The funny thing is, in reality we don’t know what will happen if we speak out in a meeting, if we ask a stranger out on a date or if we try a new activity, what we visualise is what you think will happen, not will actually happen. Which means if you change your internal representation you will change the way you feel.

 

We are all motivated by pain and pleasure; one donkey may be motivated to work as he will receive a carrot as an award, while another donkey may work because he doesn’t want to be beaten with a stick.

 

To learn more confidence building techniques and to feel more confident you need to change how you view the world, to make a lasting change download the 12 Week Online Coaching Course for Confidence and Motivation today.

 

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