Stop Being So Stressed

STOP BEING SO STRESSED

Stress is caused because people look at the negative of potential situations, this creates an internal focus which makes you feel sorry for yourself. As an example you have a bad day at work, you go home and feel sorry for yourself. While at home you think about the next day and imagine the worse – this imagine created in your imagination stresses you out; you blood pumps faster, you get headaches and you cant sleep. If this continues your stress will turn into a real illness, one of my clients stress levels lead to her hair falling out.

To stop stress happening in the first place, you need change your perception on future events (because no one knows what will happen in the future) when thinking about a future event, you need to shrink any negative images you create and replace them in your minds eye with a positive film. With the working example, you can imagine going into working having a great day, getting positive praise from a manger and feeling really proud of yourself.

Your mind doesn’t know what is real or what is created, if you imagine a positive event your mind will give you positive feelings, if you imagine feeling stressed your mind will sent signals to your body to feel stressed. In addition people respond different to you if your happy or stress, if you head to work feeling good colleagues and managers will respond more positive to you increasing your positive feelings and the opposite happens if your stressed, people will respond negatively to you, re-enforcing your stress levels.

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December 10, 2012

Do’s and Don’ts for Linkedin Business Users

Don’t – people mistakenly believe that they can join an industry forum on linked-in, add some blog post and increase the hits to their website. This doesn’t work and will only waste your time. Why because most people who use industry forums are business people like you, adding their own post in this pointless and poor marketing tool, which means they won’t read your post and you won’t read there’s. The click through rate on linked-in forums is low!!!

D0 – because loads of businesses use linked-in forums, you can use the businesses to promote your website. In the past I have welcomed linken-in business to write post for my blog giving them a free backlink, in return they will add my post to there site reaching new customers. I also tell the business to promote their article to their list and via social media which increases hits to my site. I have also posted group workings such as asking businesses to post positive comments on my blog, in return for me providing them a positive comment. Last year I made a group of 10 businesses who had free products to give away and wrote a blog post linking to these great giveaways (my give away featured at the top of the post) and then got all 10 companies to promote this amazing opportunity to their list (10 companies x on average 800 customers per list) this post got lots of hits and was featured on my blog.

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December 10, 2012

Influence the Interview Part 3

This final video will teach you how to influence the job interview using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques. In this third video of the series, Chris teaches you how to future pace the interviewer to make you an irresistible product

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December 1, 2012

The Number One Rule for Dealing With Criticism

People are criticised on a regular basis from your partner telling you that you didn’t Hoover the stairs properly to your boss telling you the report you wrote wasn’t very good.

The best way to deal with criticism is to put a different and more positive approach on the accusation.

My friend recently said to me she felt down after putting on some extra weight after eating too much cake at her child’s birthday party, which I replied with “so, what your saying is the extra cake you ate is a sign that you had fun and were enjoying yourself at your child’s party?”

It doesn’t matter what you are accused off, it’s how you respond and reframe the question that is important. All you have to do is take the criticism and talk about it from a different angle, whatever you NEVER defend yourself or you will only look as guilty as charged.

Real life examples and the responses you can use

“You’re not very creative” Response “so, what you’re saying if I show you a creative idea you will think I’m more creative?”
“Why do you never understand what I mean?” Response “so, what you mean is, if I summaries what you have asked me to do after each instruction, you will know that I understand you”
“Why are you always late?” Responses “are you asking what has happened in my private life, to make me late for the past few days?”

By not getting defensive and by turning the question around and getting specific means your manager has to agree or answer your question; with the first question (creative) the person can only agree with you or look stupid. The second question (understanding) here you have changed the question, its no longer about you not understanding it is about you confirming your understanding and the third example, (lateness) the rude person will first feel embarrassed but the conversation has moved from you being late to the reason why.

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December 1, 2012

Communication – The New UK Export

Communication is the new export, with information, news and advice being sold worldwide often via the internet. A communication degree can open many doors for you, as part of your course you will specialise journalism, public relations, speech or advertising. Once qualified graduates can apply for positions in companies in all job sectors from retail to construction.

The barrier that older people face is that they don’t think they will secure work after their degree, wrongly believing that the younger graduate will be snapped up. This limiting belief is wrong and often comes from the belief that employers want to recruit a younger person as they will stay in the position for much longer, as the older applicant will retire a lot sooner then the younger counterpart.

The truth is, and employers are very aware of this, is that most employees work in one company on average for 3-5 years before jumping ship, with many career professionals changing careers 3 times in their life time. In fact if an employer is keen to recruit someone who is likely to stay with their company for 5 years + they are more likely to recruit the older graduate as research has shown that it is the older job hunter who will, once offered a position stay with that one company until he retires in 10, 15 or even 20 years.

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December 1, 2012

Influence the Interview Part Two

In this second video, you will learn how to sell yourself in the interview, this video won’t just teach you how to sell yourself this video will give you the secret Structure of Answering the Interview Question – the interview structure comprises of just THREE steps and will give you the edge on other interviewees.

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December 1, 2012

Are Older Job Hunters Prejudice Against?

Only unsuccessful older job hunters believe employers are prejudice against their age. The truth is employers are prejudice about all job applicants.

You have to remember that the employer makes their opinion about you from what you record on the job application, CV or resume. From your text the employer makes a positive or negative opinion of you, if the same when you read a character in a book, your image of that character is distorted by the text the author uses, which means if you are concern about the age barrier you need to reframe the old age in to experience “in-depth knowledge of X, gain through over 25 years experience in …”

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November 22, 2012

How to Negotiate a Pay Rise

When negotiating your pay rise, you need to first set the value high by you first setting the initial offer, your employer will then come in under what you stated, but due to you setting the mark high (this has to be realistic) you will often receive a higher salary compared to when the employer sets the first initial offer, which is often low.

This is because we use the initial offer as a baseline and then the employer and employee negotiate from this first offer, all the following negotiations or salary offers are compared to the original offer as we naturally compare everything.

In this example the employer’s original offer is £25,000, your counter offer is £35,000, the final offer will be around £30,000.

If you set the initial offer for the same position at £42,000, the employer’s first offer will be around £30,000 which means the final offer will be around £35,000.

Now obviously these figures and offers will vary depending on your experiences, negotiation skills and the employer’s business acumen, but the point is by setting the initial offer high, highlighting your value, you will be offered a higher wage while leaving the employer believing that their shrewdness has secured them a good deal (you asked for £42,000 and accepted £35,000 – £5,000 more than you would have accepted if the employer set the bar low with his initial offer).

As you have stated your perceived value in monetary terms with your initial offer, the employer is forced to offer you a higher salary as they can’t offer a salary that is dramatically lower unless they believe that you are not worth the money or if the company has set a non-negotiable salary limit for your position.

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November 22, 2012

A Key Piece of Job Search Advice

I have worked with hundreds of people who originally struggled securing employment even though some of these professionals were experts in their industries. To key piece of advice to any job hunter is to TARGET your application, CV and Job Interview. It sounds simple, I know but so many job hunters fail to do this. They will have a general CV that they will tinker with before they apply. But what job hunters need to do in today’s competitive times is to really match the job criteria (from the job advert, company values and job specification) to the duties on their CV or the answers in there interview.

Often during the interview and on the job application, applicants and interviewees will often discuss and record irrelevant information that they feel is one of their key achievements, but if their potential new employer doesn’t deem this skill important then don’t mention it as the employer will not see it relevance. Remember research has shown that employers initially skim through CVs and applications, looking for the skills they require. The job interview is the same, you may be passionately talking about a past experience but the employer is sat there thinking “great but has that got to do with the role your applying for?”

Read the job spec and research the company values, from this you will be able to gather enough intelligence to really target your CV and stand out, winning more job offers.

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November 22, 2012January 4, 2021

Influencing the Interview Part One

We have put together a series of 3 videos to help you influence the job interview using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic persuasion techniques.

During this small series, you will learn how to delve into the employer’s mind to really understand what they desire, you will command the interview by selling your skills using the interview answer structure pattern and you will learn to use hypnotic language patterns in the job interview.

So let’s get started with Video One of Three